It is a known fact that Nigerian men go all out when it comes to being romantic.
They go all the way out to proclaim their love and appeal to their lovers on social media sites, get financially committed to their partners, look absolutely healthy and fit by engaging in exercises and lots more.
However, with all of these, a lot of Nigerian women still believe that all the romance ends where it ends as these men scare away from the lifelong commitment, marriage. Olufemi Ajasa of Vanguard in this new article has however compiled reasons why most men feel jittery to converse on ‘Marriage’ as topic.
Read excerpts from his points below:
1. No wife materials: Common among some men is the reservation that there is scarcity of ‘wife-materials’ in Nigeria. In this case, they are not referring to ladies not being in quantifiable distribution among men, what they are complaining about is that most ladies of this generation lack the necessary attributes that will qualify them for the lifetime commitment called marriage. If this is the case, time of quality search can help heal the wound of such man.
2. They get sex freely without marriage than in time past: Realizing now that they can get sex more easily than in times past, when ‘virginity’ for women was a pass value to marriage, some men now feel lot of women today have lost it when it comes to keeping themselves whole. But, this might not be the fault of women as promiscuity is not an exclusive act than can be carried out without the consent of either gender.
3. Nigeria weddings are expensive: In a country where a man is expected to marry a woman in three different kinds of wedding- Religious, Traditional and Court, the cost of marriage no doubt is something men find very intimidating. As of last year, the average Nigeria wedding cost something like N500,000 and the it goes upward from that to more unimaginable cost. For most people, especially in this economy, that’s a lot of money. But all we advise is that men should try and cut their coat according to their material
4. In search of a ‘working class’: Today, most Nigerian men are in search of a wife capable of sharing financial responsibilities with them. Gone are the days when men marry ‘full-house-wives’, the increasing cost of living has tilted most men in favor of ladies who have a means of livelihood and willing to share with their man, the burden of building a home.
5. Fear of freedom: There is a common belief among some men that marriage puts an end to one’s freedom. Single men today are much more proud about not being dependent and being on their own. They fear marriage because they will become answerable for every action they take to their spouse. That is one big responsibility some men are not ready to take up.
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