Speaking about Domestic Violence, Nollywood actress, Empress Njamah is of the opinion that women should help their partners control their anger rather than behave headstrong at all times.
This she stated in a new interview with Broadway TV, saying some ladies actually traumatize their partners mentally, rather than care for them like the babies that they want to be treated as.
According to Njamah;
"I would say this, we are talking about domestic violence and this is very serious. A man hits a woman, it's domestic violence, a woman hits a man, what is it called? No seriously, I love the topic. We are always about domestic violence and then it's all about the woman. Do you know that there are men who are more beaten up mentally than the women who they beat physically? I am not saying it's advisable but the truth of the matter is sometimes some women are headstrong and they can actually traumatize their partner mentally. They can actually make them run mad and they probably do not where they probably just hit. A lot of things happen in marriages, it is not a bed of roses. I'm not saying it's good, but sometimes you need to work together to help the man. If the man is naturally a wife beater or woman beater, you can actually help the man out of it. Her probably must have experienced a lot of things growing up. He must have seen one or two things and inculcated it. But sometimes lets just not put in on the man alone. If a woman hits a man, what is it called? That's why overseas you see women beat the guys but they can't do anything because they don't want to go to jail. There are women who beat men up.
"Women help the men as well, help them control their anger and also help them to do things, so that everything can actually fall in place. If your husband tells you, hey I think this thing you are doing is too much and you are headstrong, and sometimes their friends could actually advise them wrongly. A man would not just marry you if he's not in love with you, but when you get into marriage, it's a different ball game. Basically, it's a two way thing, Work together and ..it's not a big deal. Most times these woman push the women into doing things, most times the men are headstrong, stubborn, have experienced stuff, frustrated or it could be any of them. But that's why you are married for better for worse. Work together and then help the man if that's the kind of person he is. And if a woman is that kind of person, stop it. That's why sometimes you see men leave marriage(s) and go marry someone else because they don't want to hit the woman or divorce. So they get a second wife who will pet them. Men are babies. They want to be treated like babies. That's the truth."
Menwhile, Ghanaian actress, Juliet Ibrahim is attacking Empress Njamah for her comments on Domestic Violence. In a recent interview with Broadway TV, Empress stated that "if a man hits a woman, it's domestic violence, but when a woman hits a man, what is it called?" She highlighted that men are blamed more for being violent in their relationships, but some women also put their partners, who want to be treated like babies, under intense mental pressure.
This did not go down well with Juliet and she slamed the Nigerian actress in a post on her Instagram page.
She wrote;
"KARMA IS A BITCH! When it comes barking up your own tree or in ur family ; please preach ur wisdom that time... #whatApity and we call ourselves celebrities! When people decide to sit and form advisers they should think twice before talking honestly. What's the meaning of "a man hits a woman it's called domestic violence and when a woman hits a man it's called what?" MADAM, it's the same domestic violence either ways and what we have been preaching since day one is the fact that no one should get to the point of hitting another being in the name of anger or rage! Violence is WRONG! There is no excuse! Violence should NEVER EVER BE THE OPTION OR CHOICE!!! there is NO REASON IN THE WORLD FOR A MAN OR WOMAN TO GET PHYSICAL ON ANOTHER Person!
"Domestic Violence which is an abuse comes in several forms could be emotional or physical as well; sadly we do NOT SEE THE EMOTIONAL ABUSE ON MOST; what most people are preaching against lately is the fact that people can't SEEM TO CONTROL ANGER AND GET OUT OF VIOLENT RELATIONSHIPS! No one is sitting around happy about victims ( both male and female) being attacked and killed brutally ; what we are standing firm against is the fact that We as humans need to see the signs and exit the relationship immediately we notice the signs or speak to the rightful authorities before it is Too Late! How dare you try to justify why another person will get physically violent on another till it leads to death or getting burnt! Are you even aware that RAPE IS also a form of violence ? Would you sit in ur seat and preach that ladies that get raped are the ones bringing it upon themselves? Is that ur mindset? YOU WOULD BLAME A LADY FOR GETTING RAPED ? Shouldn't you be preaching against rape and violence in general rather than justifying the Act? Haven't you seen photos of women who were murdered after being raped? Is it the woman's fault that some guy couldn't control his urge???? Would you also sit and advise that every one should pick up guns and go to war because they were offended by another country??? #sayNotodomesticviolence against women or men! We preach against it! VIOLENCE SHOULD NEVER BE THE END RESULT!"
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